that parents are generally anxious and under a lot of stress.
• Do not become defensive if parents express anger towards
you or the school. Bullying takes a serious toll on targeted
children and their families. Remain understanding of the
parents' concerns and feelings.
• Make it clear that you take the incident seriously, that
you care about the child's safety and that you will do what
you can to prevent further incidents.
• Try to get the facts the parents provide as clear as possible,
but don't grill the parents or focus on inconsistencies in
their version of events.
• If necessary, tell the parents that you will need time
to investigate the matter yourself. Tell the parents when
you will contact them and make sure you follow through. There
may be some situations when a child's safety is severely
threatened. In these cases, you need to take action immediately.
Work with parents to do so as appropriate.
• Explain the school's or district's policy on bullying
and/or sexual harassment and reiterate the readiness of
the school to take action against bullying and/or sexual
• Keep lines of communication open.
sure you have as much reliable information about the event
prior to the meeting.
• Share your concerns about what's been happening to the
targeted student. That is the primary reason of the meeting.
Do not blame the targeted student for the attack in any way.
• Emphasize that the problem is with their child's behavior,
not their child's character. Do identify some positive behaviors
their child has shown.
• Be understanding but firm.
• Explain the school's/district's policy on bullying and/or
sexual harassment and reiterate the readiness of the school
to take action against bullying and/or sexual harassment.